When the tissues of the neck feel tightly tethered—as if they are saying, “I can’t let go”—we must approach them with gentleness rather than force. Here is how I helped my client transition from survival mode to true relaxation.

The Frankincense Release Recipe

To help the nervous system feel safe enough to release, I use Frankincense essential oil for its grounding properties.

Apply this mixture gently along the sternocleidomastoid (SCM) muscle and the tops of the shoulders.

The 3-Step Somatic Movement

1. The Gentle Lift: Use your opposite hand to gently “lift” or pinch the SCM muscle. This touch lets the muscle know you are present and it is safe.
2. The Slow Pivot: While maintaining the gentle lift, slowly turn your head backward, then return to the center.
3. Repetition: Repeat this 10 times on each side with mindful breathing.

"Years of Fear I Haven't Faced"

“It feels like what’s being held isn’t my muscle—it’s years of fear I haven’t faced.”

As my client practiced these movements, she began to share stories of her past. The body never lies; it just doesn’t speak in words. When you listen to it, it gives you the space to finally express and heal.